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Tuesday, June 3, 2008


Wow, it's been a while since I've posted. For the most part we've been pretty busy. Working nights, kids during the day, showing the house, meeting with bank people preparing for court. Who has time to blog?

Preparing for court? Well, my husband had a small claims case against his previous employer. He had been fired suddenly without just cause 7 weeks before I was due to have our third child. Long story short, we didn't feel he received enough severance so we took her to court for more. That and the fact that she fired him in a totally demeaning and inappropriate manner. There was no reason why he was let go except that she decided she no longer wanted to pay her manager that much. She wouldn't even give him a letter of reference despite the fact she told him it was nothing he'd done. So, after a long day in court yesterday and a nervewracking time, it's finally over. We all were able to come to an arrangement, he's getting more money and a positive letter of reference. So hubby's happy and so am I. It's been hanging over us for months now.

I'd have to say that I am a bit of a wuss when it comes to standing up for myself. I may be able to say my piece at the time but going to court... that was a whole other story. I'd been dreading for months the settlement conference. Lived through that. Then I had to live with the trial date hanging over our heads for another 2 months. It's been adding a lot of stress on each of us. I mean, yes, he should stand up for what's right but to actually have to go to court and sit in front of a judge, have K be cross-examined and then most likely bad mouthed. No life hasn't been very anxiety free for the last two months.

Now we just have to worry about the house selling. The people who came to look today are not interested. We got sneaky and hid a video camera behind the t.v. so it would pick up a recording of their conversation, not film them. I expect their comments to be pretty much the same as what other people are going to say. It just pisses me off that what we overlooked in the house that other people are so on top of. We just thought the house was amazing. But we had only one child then. It's been since that that we've realized the upstairs is an awkward lay-out. THe family room is too small and the living room is too small. Oh well, not much we can do. We've already lowered the price because our realtor feels the market hit a slump with there being fewer buyers.

Maybe we are just not meant to sell and move. I hope not. We'd really like to move closer to hubby's work. The other thing is I need to discuss with my business partner what we are going to do with our video store. I'm starting to think selling would be best. I'm not even getting paid out of the business at the moment and I've been working just as hard as she has so I think I'd rather sell now so that I can at least get a share in it. Otherwise, if I let her take it over, I get nothing because she can't afford to buy me out of anything.

I don't know what to do if she doesn't want to sell. We'll have to figure it out.