With all the party shaming going on these days and what with human nature being what it is, there is always someone willing to take advantage of people's generosity. As a parent of a special needs kid I decided to stop doing the big party for a different reason entirely.
You see (except for two years at this one terrible school) all the kids show up to my girl's party. That's because I throw rocking fun parties. I don't mean over the top expensive Pinterest parties that only people with double incomes or at least larger incomes than we have can manage. I just put a little more effort and thought into it than some of the other parents around here. At least I think I do. I guess I wouldn't really know because my kid only received 1 party invitation the entire school year.